Did you know that Perinatal Mental Health Disorders are the most common complication of childbirth?
One in five women and one in 10 dads and same sex partners will develop a Perinatal Mood or Anxiety Disorder (PMAD) during pregnancy or in the months after giving birth.
You may have heard of Postpartum depression yet this is actually only one of many Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders (PMADs), including Perinatal Anxiety, Perinatal Posttraumatic Stress Disorder, Perinatal Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and Perinatal Psychosis. We now use the word “Perinatal” instead of “Postpartum” to describe these disorders because perinatal describes the pregnancy AND postpartum period, as it is common for these symptoms to occur during pregnancy as well.
These mood disorders are really common yet parents often blame themselves. It’s really common to wonder, “Why me?”, and “What did I do wrong?” and to compare yourself to other parents.
You did absolutely nothing wrong. There are many risk factors for developing a PMAD, including:
- Personal or family history of mental illness Including but not limited to depression, anxiety and postpartum depression.
- Traumatic pregnancy or birth Did you have an emergency C-section, an unwanted birth process, an urgent birth experience, or difficulty with breastfeeding?
- Difficult experiences around pregnancy or birth Did you have hyperemesis, were you on bed rest, did you bleed or have other difficulties during your pregnancy? Did you experience infertility, miscarriages, or multiples? Was your baby in the NICU, does your baby have special needs, is your baby colicky, or have a difficult temperament? Have you had challenges feeding your baby?
- A history or current experience of domestic violence, physical, sexual or other abuse
- A traumatic childhood People often underestimate the impact of childhood trauma on their lives as adults. Childhood experiences, including mismatched temperaments with parents (such as not receiving the guidance or compassion needing during pivotal early years) can have profound lasting effects.
- Stress Significant changes in your life can greatly impact your emotional health: transitions such as moving, relationship challenges, losing a loved one or losing a job can impact your mental wellbeing
- Lack of social support Do you feel like you are lacking a “village”? Is your partner deployed or are you a single parent? Does your family live far away or are they not very involved?
- Personality Certain personality traits have been seen as relevant in the development of PMADs, including needing to be in control, perfectionism, or having low self-esteem.
The very most profound thing we have to offer our own children is our own healing – Anne Lamott
While some parents feel depressed during and after pregnancy, many parents also feel overwhelmed and anxious. Additional common symptoms are:
- Impatience, irritability, rage
- Intrusive thoughts, images, or fears of harm coming to your baby
- Feelings of helplessness and/or hopelessness
- Lack of motivation and loss of energy
- Difficulty in concentrating and making decisions
- Changes in sleeping and/ or eating patterns
- Isolation and withdrawal from loved ones
- Frequent feelings of “I can’t do this”
- Not feeling like yourself / feeling “off”
- Difficulty attaching or bonding to your baby
- In the most serious cases, having urges to harm oneself or others, or seeing, hearing, or feeling things that are not really there and/or beliefs that are not based in reality
Regardless if you are experiencing all of these symptoms or only a few, the good news is these symptoms are temporary and very treatable with professional help. Therapy can help you learn to manage these emotions, build skills to learn to trust your instincts and help you relax and enjoy being with your baby.
Helpful resources for PMADs include:
- Postpartum Support International
- PSI Helpline 1-800-944-4773 or text 503-894-9453
- Postpartum Health Alliance (San Diego Area)
- PHA Warmline 619-254-0023
- Massachusetts General Hospital Center for Women’s Health
- Office on Women’s Health
- Perinatal OCD Information Center
- Postpartum Stress Center
- Postpartum Depression Online Support Group
- Postpartum Depression Online Support Group for Dads
Birth Trauma resources:
- Birth Trauma Association (UK Birth Trauma Association)
- Birth and Trauma Support Center (US Birth and Trauma Support)
- Improving Birth (Improving birth)
- Make Birth Better (Make Birth Better)
- PATTCH (Prevention and Treatment of Traumatic Birth)
- Solace for Mothers (Solace for Mothers After Traumatic Birth)
- TABS (Trauma and birth stress – PTSD after childbirth)
See more resources here
- Birth Equity (Promotes healthy Black birth outcomes)
- Birth Monopoly (Birth advocacy)
- The Blue Dot Project (Maternal Mental Health movement)
- Black Mamas Matter Alliance
- Black Women Birthing Justice (Black Maternal Health)
- Every Mother Counts (Improving Maternal Health)
- Shades of Blue Project (Black Maternal Mental Health Matters)
- 2020 Mom (Maternal mental health care advocacy)
- Hand to Hold (support, resources, podcast)